About a year ago I was agonizing over a grade I received in math — a C. I felt like I had failed and this was not the first time I had let myself be so ridiculously defeated over a grade. But while complaining, one of the professor’s who knew me happened to hear what I was saying and came out. She said, “Dianna, don’t be upset about getting a C — it means you understand the topic with “average” knowledge and for an English major to have an average knowledge of math, that’s really good.” Her advice really stuck with me and still today I remind myself of this fact.
I know some of you may be very happy to complete a class with a “C” as you should be, but I know there are many others reading this (and not just moms in college) that feel absolutely defeated by getting anything less than an “A.” We feel that if there is room to improve we should have already done it without any hesitance, but it’s really not true. How can we learn something if we never fail? We can’t be “Excellent” at every single thing we do, say, or write. So I decided to do a little digging on this and more specifically on getting “B” grades. What I found was that many people agree that receiving a “B” grade in a class (or on an assignment) usually challenges a student to work harder the next time. I mean, think about it — if you always get A’s you are likely to be a bit too relaxed in a classroom and you probably aren’t learning the material. If you are learning it, you will likely not retain it. However, when you have something to strive for, you will pay more attention and study harder. I think that is something we should think about when focusing so hard on getting A’s.
But there is more — what is so wrong with being “above average?” It seems silly that we aren’t content unless we are the best of the best of the best. But getting a “B” doesn’t make you a failure, it makes you above average and that is a pretty nice place to be. And getting a “C” isn’t the end of the world either, it just means you are average in that area of study. As if being a college mom (or any college student) isn’t hard enough, we really should give ourselves a break and reward ourselves for our hard work.
But to the moms in college: don’t compare yourself to your classmates. Most of them aren’t parents and that makes a HUGE difference. Where a traditional student has the desired amount of time to study each week, you have to find the time between children and home responsibilities. So, if you are juggling a couple children (or even 1), possibly work, and school — well, I think a “B” is a really great mark to receive!
So next time you get an assignment returned to you with a B or a C : examine your work, find out where you can improve, put the paper away and step forward in to the next challenge!